You want to design a ceremony that honours and celebrates your loved one’s life. Naturally your focus is 100% on the person who has passed but it’s also essential that you are supported and held with compassion.
I am an Independent Funeral Celebrant, so I work alongside your Funeral Director. Some families are introduced to me through a Funeral Director but I can also be approached directly.
A funeral celebrant ensures the funeral is personalised to the individual, remembering their qualities and quirks, not a standard package thrust upon you from a catalogue.
Your wishes are of utmost importance. My role is to support you in having the ceremony the way you want it. I help you to create a ceremony with great memories, meaning and substance. I guide you through the many decisions at this challenging time and help take away any extra burden and stress.
By spending time with you and your family I hear all the important stories and memories. I help to tease out what needs to be in your ceremony so that it is authentic. What was so individual about your loved one? What made them who they are?
My role is to create, conduct and deliver the ceremony. I support you in writing the eulogy and co-ordinating what other speakers will say. I can provide you with poems, quotes and blessings that are relevant. You might need guidance on song choices.
Don’t be afraid to make people laugh, as this can also be a celebration of a life well lived. I liaise with you throughout the whole process; deal with any concerns, so that your energy can be spent with family and friends. I work with you so that everything goes exactly as planned.
Personal touches to your funeral are important, so I encourage you to find something that speaks about your loved one in a profound and meaningful manner. What symbolized their life? Are there actions or symbols that can be integrated into the service? Is there a special poem or an excerpt from a book they loved?
How can we commemorate them so that we have a genuine memory? Did they love their garden, do you want to hand out keepsakes, and will the coffin be decorated in a personalized way? Finding something that is uniquely them to their life journey makes the ceremony personal. None of us are the same and we need the ceremony to reflect that.
Location, there is no rule that the service needs to be in a church or chapel. The choice of location is yours. We do weddings in different locations and in different styles so why not do the same for funerals.
It is so important throughout this time to have one constant person, an advocate who cares about you, who is not so emotionally involved but has the clarity and strength to assist.
With warmth and care I support those that are speaking on the day. I make sure your ceremony runs smoothly and seamlessly. You will also be presented with a final copy of your ceremony as a memory, presented as a keepsake.
Further, I check in with families a few weeks after the service. Grief affects us in different ways and support is available but the funeral is not the time to be bombarded with information. Making the time to talk afterwards, allows you to debrief, reflect on the funeral and be supported to access additional assistance if needed.
I love to create a funeral or memorial service that really reflects your loved one. A beautiful, sensitive, thoughtfully written and presented farewell will help to begin the healing process for your family and friends left behind.